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Wednesday, November 24, 2010

The social network – gender paradox




Most people today, live dual lives.

The first one, their real lives, in which they have to deal with recession, pollution, rising onion prices, A. Raja, Bigggg Bosssss (or whatever it’s spelling is) and Rakhi Sawant.

Second, is the virtual life – emails, Google and most important of them all, social networking. With social networking I am talking predominantly about Facebook, which has over 500 million users and growing.

Facebook is no longer a medium where you just keep in touch with friends and have an active pseudo-social circle; you’re living a parallel life. This parallel life has a lot of factors similar to your actual life, like social standing, acceptance and popularity amongst peers. Don’t agree with me?

The notification window
Doesn’t your face light up when you see the red figure on the left top corner of your screen displaying notifications?   

Don’t you get disappointed when you put up a really cool status message, one that you were thinking about the whole day or a profile picture in which you think you’re looking a lot like Brad Pitt, and don’t even get a single “like” or comment?

Doesn’t that tinge of jealousy crop up when you see your friend’s ridiculous status message and pictures having tonnes of “likes” and comments?    


If yes, you would know what I’m talking about. If no, still read on, you’re not being charged for it.

I have no issues when a well deserving status, picture, video, link or any other virtual garbage is appreciated on the basis of content but there is nothing more irritating when people do it for every other reason other than content.

Women’s reservation is a concept I have been hearing about for as long as I remember. My personal opinion about the idea in the real world is immaterial and would undoubtedly create a controversy, so I will choose to abstain from talking about it here. However, in the virtual world, the scene is a lot different and it’s the male gender that’s most vulnerable.

There is a Brobdingnanian* of a difference in a woman’s and man’s virtual life. I’m not going to lecture you like I’m the president of some men’s welfare society fighting for their rights but will merely point out the glaring dissimilarities.

*before you open Google and try finding out what Brobdingnanian stands for, let me help you out. It means Gigantic or Colossal. I was looking for a word worthy of pointing out the discrepancy between the genders and accidently stumbled upon this one.

Still feeling lost? Let me elaborate and elucidate what I’m trying to say with an example.

Example:

Boy’s profile: Talented movie maker, extremely creative, smart, fun, 5 ft 6 inches tall, plump, average looking, blah, blah, blah. He has been working his ass off on a project for the last 6 months and has finally completed all the post production activities and finalizes his trailer.

Excited and filled with anticipation, he puts it up on his fb wall to get some reactions. This is what his wall reads

Iamamoviemakerbutnobodygivesashit: Guys I have finally finished making my movie and I am putting up the trailer. Let me know what you think of it J J

3 hours later, he logs on, curious to see the response the trailer has been garnering.

4 new notifications à Click


Honey Singh found out his year of death and thinks you should find out too.

Anand Sharma, Sneha U like your link.

Mohan has commented on your link.
“Dude! Are you coming for the movie tonight”?

Disappointed and dejected he switches off his laptop, kind of used to this by now.


Girl’s profile: Wearing a mini skirt in her profile picture. Period.


This is what her wall reads:

Iamsohotithinkiamgoingtoburn: Heyyyyyyy fnd this reeeeeeeeeaaaallllllyyyyy cute video of babiezzz making funny faces....awwwww shhhooooo cuuuuttteeeee....muah muah :* :* :* XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX 

13 nano seconds later...

78 new notifications à Click

Ram, Ram’s brother Raja, Ram’s cousin brother Ravi, Ravi’s younger brother’s friend Rahul, Ram’s father Rajeev and 33 others like your link.

(The comments is where it starts to REALLY get ridiculous)

Krish has commented on your link
“ROFLMYAONAHHEYRMJSLDHRNDKWD!!!! That’s how funny it was :D :D :D awesome stuff...what are you doing on Saturday night?”

Mohan has commented on your link. (Btw, this is the same Mohan from before)
“Awww that was sooooo cute...but I duno which is cuter, the babies or you ;) ;) :P :D (and 30 more smileys)

Aisha has commented on your link.
“Bitch that was shoooooooooo cutie cutie....love you muah muah XOXOXOXOX”

Mohan has commented on your link.
“Hey Aisha. How are you long time no see J J

Michael has commented on your link.
“Awesome stuff sexy...hey Aisha....you display pic looks really nice...how are you?”

Ali has commented on your link.
“HA HA HAHA soooooo gooood....how have you been?? “

Mohan has commented on your link.
“@Michael-- Stop trying to flirt around with her. ”


Michael has commented on your link.
"@Mohan--- what are you trying to do then?"



.......and it goes on. You see what I’m talking about. There a million other instances I can go on and on about.

I’ve heard guys making some ridiculous statements such as, “She is such a stuck up girl. I “like” everything she puts up but she still never responds to my chats”.


Dude! She also knows what she puts up is stupid. So whom are you kidding?

Technology might have made life easier but you are not going to impress a girl by hitting the “like” button like a maniac and commenting that you find her cuter than kittens, puppies and piglets. Unfortunately, to woo a girl, you still have to do that the old fashioned way.

Before the girls get too pleased, let me clear the air, I’m by no way saying that you are all descendents of Mother Teresa and are all noble. There are girls who do the same but the magnitude is negligible when compared to the weaker sex (in this case, male).

So how do we really overcome this paradox? I thought hard and long, 7 minutes to be precise and came up with the following results. To make this post irrelevant (read solution), I give you two options: 

A)    It’s necessary that we keep aside all temptations and appreciate content solely on the basis of merit OR

B)    The girls would really need to buck up, chat more, poke, flirt (or socialize as G likes to put it), send random friend requests and everything else a lot of guys today do ("the wanna be do franship types), to maintain the equilibrium on the social network (I’m doing these guys a favour here). Not desirable, but a solution nevertheless.

Now that I have given the world the solution to end the gender paradox on the social network, I’m feeling extremely proud and hungry. While I find something to eat, I’d wish you wouldn’t spend too much time thinking about this issue since the virtual world can and will never replace your real world.

I may not be very pretty and might not look hot in a mini skirt but if you like what have just read HIT THE BLOODY “LIKE” button. Let me see if I’ve made my point.

Cheers!!


Disclaimer: 
1) The views expressed in this post are wholly that of the author and you have all rights to disagree. However, all abuses on my comments page will be deleted and you  will face my cyber wrath.


2) All names used in this post are fictional and resemblance to anybody dead, alive, missing or forgotten is purely coincidental and I don't remember what else I am supposed to write here but I hope you get the point.


Cheers!!! 

16 comments:

Teja said...

sexy sexy sexy ........is all that i can say....loved it

As u like it ;) said...

Hey pal !!! A good post !!! :)

Vinith said...

Dude Seriously ... woow .. really superb ....nice thinking ...specially the theme u have selected

TinTo said...

spoken (actually written) "like" the true Samaritan of FB.... :p

and a girl wearing a mini or micro need not upload a video dude... she will attract "likes" and "comments" and probably a "date request" for something as simple as this smiley ":)"...

P.S. FB actually started and kicked off with an agenda- "vote this chick", right??? :D (Courtesy: The Social Network)

Ashish Kalsi said...

@Teja--- thank you so much...I'm glad you did :D :D
@Mitran--- thank you :)
@Vinith--- thanks a lot man...
@TinTo--- ha ha ha well I had to dedicate a post to FB at sometime ;) and I'm yet to catch up with the movie so I wouldn't know ;)

Varshaa said...

Niceee..lovd it !!

Ashish Kalsi said...

@Varshaa----thank you :D :D

jayashree swaminathan said...

awwwwwwwwwwweeeeeeeesomeeeeeeeeeeely written!!

Ashish Kalsi said...

@Jaya---thank you so much :D

V Rakesh said...

Talk about how technology has permeated into our lives at unimaginable proportions!

Wonderful post!

Harsha said...

hey awesome u have picked a entirly different topic :D
keep it up bro...

Ashish Kalsi said...

@Rakesh --- absolutely!! Thank you

@Harsha--- thank you so much :)

Ashish Kalsi said...

@Rakesh --- absolutely!! Thank you

@Harsha--- thank you so much :)

V Rakesh said...

Talk about how technology has permeated into our lives at unimaginable proportions!

Wonderful post!

Ashish Kalsi said...

@Varshaa----thank you :D :D

TinTo said...

spoken (actually written) "like" the true Samaritan of FB.... :p

and a girl wearing a mini or micro need not upload a video dude... she will attract "likes" and "comments" and probably a "date request" for something as simple as this smiley ":)"...

P.S. FB actually started and kicked off with an agenda- "vote this chick", right??? :D (Courtesy: The Social Network)